Selves Awareness PrivateWork-It-Outs 1 Regulated Self - What areas of life are most challenging for me in terms of regulating emotions and impulses? 2 Spontaneous Self - What are three small changes that I can make in how I schedule my time to allow for more spontaneous self? 3 Achiever Self - What do I do to balance achievement with tranquility, calmness, silence, and inner peace? 4 Imposter Self - What are three to five things I'm really good at? 5 Pusher Self - What does pusher self habitually tell me that I have not done enough of? 6 Do Nothing Self - What signs must be occurring in my life before I allow do nothing self to be fully activated? 7 Critical Self - What would I most like to appreciate about myself as I develop greater self-compassion and transform my relationship with my inner critic? 8 Compassionate Self - Write a 25 to 30 word note from the compassionate part of myself to the part of myself that is struggling. Hopeful Self - How do I bring balance between what is realistic and what is unrealistic? 10 Pessimistic Self - When is pessimistic self an advantage and when is pessimistic self a disadvantage? 11 Learning Self - How does the breadth and depth of my knowledge affect my relationships with the people closest to me? 12 Perfectionist Self - What do I think my perfectionism is trying to protect me from and what am I afraid will happen if I loosen my grip on the perfectionism shield? 13 Teamwork Self - How does teamwork extend into my personal life, in my parenting, my family, my partner, my friendships? 14 Lone Wolf Self - What do I like to do on my own that has me stand apart from the crowd? 15 Forgiving Self - Who am I finding most difficult to forgive and what could and would I do about that? 16 Angry Self - Consider a situation in my life where I feel angry, how can I clearly communicate my position without becoming defensive or attacking? 17 Courageous Self - Think of a situation as an adult when I felt afraid yet chose to face my fears, what did I observe, think and feel at the time? 18 Humble Self - How do I balance humility with the need for recognition and appreciation? 19 Leader Self - What is the difference between how effective I have been as a leader and how much I enjoy being a leader? 20 Protector Self - What becomes possible in intimate relationships when I allow the space for vulnerable self to be present? 21 Honest Self - In what relationship can I practice balancing between being true to myself and being kind to others? 22 Pleaser Self - How much am I giving up in order to please others? 23 Curious Self - With which people or in what circumstances do I feel most comfortable and encouraged in expressing curiosity? 24 Apathetic Self - What specific situations of environments make me feel apathetic? 25 Brave Self - Consider a close relationship that is calling me forward to take a risk, what could an would I do? 26 Shy Self - When is shyness an advantage and when is shyness a disadvantage? 27 Accommodating Self - What becomes possible when accommodating self finds itself in an obligation that it is not longer committed to? 28 Social Self - What are the social situations that have the most positive outcomes for me and how do I positively influence the interactions? 29 Critical Thinking Self - How do I integrate my emotions or the emotions of others into my critical thinking process? 30 Creative Self - What do I do when I want to access my most creative self? 31 Grateful Self - Are there people to whom I have not adequately expressed gratitude? It's been an oversight or intentionally I've been holding back. If so, why, and what adjustments can I make today? 32 Entitled Self - In what ways have other people been affected by entitled self? 33 Ambivalent Self - What are a few reasons why my ambivalent self is a strength and what are a few reasons why ambivalent self is a weakness? 34 Wise Self - What problem am I working on right now that requires that I see it from another perspective so I am more helpful to those around me? 35 Judgmental Self - In what situations does judgmental self get activated and what becomes possible when it is balanced out with understanding self? 36 Understanding Self - What do I do to not lose my sense of self when I'm in the process of valuing other people's perspective? 37 Preserving Self - What effort can I bring to a bad habit or a vice that is no longer useful? 38 Skeptical Self - What issue am I currently skeptical about and what would it take for me to change my mind? 39 Discerning Self - How is discerning self served me well over the years in big and small ways? 40 Sabotaging Self - What mistakes have I made in the past that I keep replaying in my mind and what would become possible if I let it go? 41 Analytical Self - Analytical Self - What decision am I attempting to make that needs more engagement of the analytical self? 42 Intuitive Self - What becomes possible when I become more trusting of my intuition? 43 Appreciative Self - What could and would I do to nurture my appreciation for beauty and excellence? 44 Annoyed Self - I get annoyed when 45 Companion Self - What makes me a good companion? 46 Solitary Self - What becomes possible when I fully embrace my solitary self, guilt free? 47 Adventurer Self - What is my next great adventure? 48 Anxious Self - What are three ways that anxious self protects me from being vulnerable? 49 Generous Self - What becomes possible when I double my level of daily generosity? 50 Narcissistic Self - In what situations does my healthy self-centeredness become more of my narcissistic self? 51 Rebel Self - In what areas of my life is it now time for rebel self to start a rebellion? 52 Compliant Self - In what ways does compliant self motivate my future self and in what ways does it limit it? 53 Patient Self - What situation in my life is it now time to accept it, stop complaining, or leave it? 54 Resistant Self - What is the most important rule that resistant self expects me to always obey? 55 Stable Self - What are three simple habits I can improve that will enhance my stability? 56 Insecure Self - When you’re present, what is the positive intention you have for my life? 57 Attentive Self - What would I name the path of life that I'm on? Is it the right path for me? How can I tell? 58 Autopilot Self - What's my biggest strength and what's my biggest weakness? 59 Emotional Eater Self - What difficult problems have I solved that I initially thought were unsolvable? 60 Intuitive Eater Self - How do I feel when I see myself in the mirror? 61 Procrastinator Self - What positive experiences have I had with procrastinating and what negative experiences have I had with procrastinating? 62 Finisher Self - When I examine my past projects that I did not finish, what do I know about myself today that indicates I'm most likely to quit? 63 Open Self - What upsets me about other people's behavior and what does that say about me? 64 Closed Self - What are the early signs that closed self is making its presence in my life and what could and would I do to nurture this part of me? 65 Impersonal Self - Where is there room for improvement in my life? 66 Personal Self - What is one thing that I would like to change about myself? 67 Connected Self - What would I do differently if I knew nobody would judge me? 68 Addictive Self - What are some non-negotiable commitments I need to make daily?
